Samaiya, you wrote so warmly, it always draws me. This is a topic I love to talk about and it’s sad that men get more credit than us because somehow parenting/caregiving is by default the woman’s characteristic. Like you said, women play a big role in creation of this stereotype- mothers smother their sons with love, rarely teach them what it means to be men. Men in general enjoy the authority they have been endowed with but most don’t stop to think that it comes with a LOT of responsibility.
I’m just saying that men being actual men has become such a rarity that we actually do need to appreciate the few men who are that way. I come from a south Asian background and men do not do much, and i appreciate that my husband does. Notning over the top, but I do let him know.
Step by step, families like yours and mine can change the notion that men are going something great by fulfilling their responsibilities. But at the same time, respect their efforts and recognize each others endeavors in parenting.
Thanks for the kind words! And yes, I totally get it: on the one hand positive reinforcement is great, but on the other hand does the act of a co-parent parenting require a gold medal from the often-default parent!?
It reminds me of the first time my husband took just a one-hour solo flight with the kids (5 &10) and they all landed crying and frustrated 😂.
As you mentioned, I have done several long-haul solo flights with my kids, straight from when they were babies to toddles and later on. It was never easy, but I had to do it and I couldn't really complain because 'everyone does it'.
Samaiya, you wrote so warmly, it always draws me. This is a topic I love to talk about and it’s sad that men get more credit than us because somehow parenting/caregiving is by default the woman’s characteristic. Like you said, women play a big role in creation of this stereotype- mothers smother their sons with love, rarely teach them what it means to be men. Men in general enjoy the authority they have been endowed with but most don’t stop to think that it comes with a LOT of responsibility.
I’m just saying that men being actual men has become such a rarity that we actually do need to appreciate the few men who are that way. I come from a south Asian background and men do not do much, and i appreciate that my husband does. Notning over the top, but I do let him know.
Step by step, families like yours and mine can change the notion that men are going something great by fulfilling their responsibilities. But at the same time, respect their efforts and recognize each others endeavors in parenting.
Thanks for the kind words! And yes, I totally get it: on the one hand positive reinforcement is great, but on the other hand does the act of a co-parent parenting require a gold medal from the often-default parent!?
I really enjoyed reading this.
It reminds me of the first time my husband took just a one-hour solo flight with the kids (5 &10) and they all landed crying and frustrated 😂.
As you mentioned, I have done several long-haul solo flights with my kids, straight from when they were babies to toddles and later on. It was never easy, but I had to do it and I couldn't really complain because 'everyone does it'.
Oh man 1 hour and ages 5 and 10 is cakewalk comparatively! 😂
IKR! But if you have no practice then the first time is always hard…