When I worked with individuals and couples in therapy, I had a saying: “There’s your truth, there’s their truth, and the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle.”
So many flashbacks to the early days of my marriage in reading this one Samaiya haha. We definitely still get in to arguments but are quicker to see the other person's perspective and move on before it becomes a circular discussion. And I like the framing of the fight being against mutual misunderstanding.
This is such helpful explanation! I think this framework for conflict resolution can be used for more than just couples conflicts, like siblings and parents. Seeing another person's perspective is definitely hard and I think recognizing that I'm emotionally triggered helps to bring down the fire a little bit.
Wow I thought only Amazon could hear our arguments via all our Alexa devices but looks like you got access to the data as well lolll! Thank you for capturing the everyday struggles we all go through so effectively - love these tips and skills to work on!
So many flashbacks to the early days of my marriage in reading this one Samaiya haha. We definitely still get in to arguments but are quicker to see the other person's perspective and move on before it becomes a circular discussion. And I like the framing of the fight being against mutual misunderstanding.
Indeed! I trained in couples therapy in residency and still catch myself instinctively reaching for the “let me prove you wrong here” card 😂
This is such helpful explanation! I think this framework for conflict resolution can be used for more than just couples conflicts, like siblings and parents. Seeing another person's perspective is definitely hard and I think recognizing that I'm emotionally triggered helps to bring down the fire a little bit.
Glad you found it helpful! It really is something that comes up in all close relationships!
Love this.
Wow I thought only Amazon could hear our arguments via all our Alexa devices but looks like you got access to the data as well lolll! Thank you for capturing the everyday struggles we all go through so effectively - love these tips and skills to work on!
Lol you might as well rename your Alexa Samaiya!